adminHi there, it’s 2025 and you deserve true love!. But how can you tell if someone truly loves you? Not just the words they say but through their actions and the way they make you feel. Love is more than just “I love you.” It’s in the little things, the big moments, and even in times when things aren’t so great.
Here are ten ways to tell if someone’s feelings for you are genuine, with real-life examples to help you picture it better.
1. They Listen to You (Like, Really Listen)
Have you ever had someone remember a random thing you mentioned weeks ago? That’s love. For example, Sarah once told her boyfriend, Tunde, how much she loved sunflowers. A month later, she had a rough day at work, and guess what? Tunde showed up with a bunch of sunflowers. He listened, remembered, and showed he cared.
2. They Respect Your Boundaries
True love means respect. If you say you need space or time to focus on something, they give it to you without making a fuss. Take Ada and Chijioke. Ada told him she needed some alone time to prepare for her exams. Instead of complaining, he sent her a care package with snacks and a cute note that said, “I’m cheering for you from here.”
3. They Celebrate Your Wins
It doesn’t matter how big or small your achievement is. If someone truly loves you, they’ll celebrate with you. When Segun finally got his first freelance gig, his girlfriend, Bola, didn’t just say “Congrats.” She made a big deal out of it with a homemade card and his favorite jollof rice. Love is about being your biggest fan.
4. They Stick Around During Tough Times
Love isn’t just about the good days. It’s about staying when things get rough. When Kemi lost her job, she was scared her boyfriend, Daniel, might distance himself. Instead, he sat with her, helped her update her CV, and reminded her she was capable. That’s real love.
5. They Make Sacrifices for You
It’s not always about grand gestures. Sometimes, love is giving up something small for the person you care about. Like when Dapo skipped watching a live football match with his friends because his girlfriend, Zainab, needed him at her cousin’s wedding. He didn’t complain; he just showed up.
6. They Include You in Their Future Plans
When someone truly loves you, they see you in their future. Amaka knew her boyfriend, Chisom, was serious about her when he started saying “we” instead of “I” while planning his next career move. He wasn’t just thinking about his life but about how she fit into it too.
7. They Support Your Dreams
Love means cheering each other on. When Funmi told her boyfriend, Emeka, that she wanted to start a small baking business, he didn’t brush it off. He helped her create a business plan and even got her a beginner’s baking set. Love means believing in the other person.
8. They Apologize When They’re Wrong
No one’s perfect, but love is about taking responsibility for mistakes. Like that time Peter snapped at his girlfriend, Chioma, after a stressful day at work. He didn’t let his pride get in the way—he apologized the next day and made it up to her with her favorite suya.
9. They Prioritize You
Love means you matter to them. If you call them in the middle of the night, they’ll pick up. If you need them, they’ll find a way to show up. Nkechi knew her husband loved her when he left an important meeting early to be with her when she was sick. It’s the little things that count.
10. They Make You Feel Safe
Love isn’t just about romance; it’s also about feeling secure. When someone loves you, you feel free to be yourself around them—no fear of judgment. Tolu always felt safe sharing her dreams, fears, and even her embarrassing moments with her boyfriend, Kunle, because she knew he wouldn’t laugh or criticize.
Love doesn’t have to be complicated. It’s in the everyday moments and actions that make you feel valued, respected, and cared for. If you’re lucky enough to have someone showing you these signs, hold onto them. And if you’re still waiting for that person, don’t settle for less. You deserve the real thing.
Jedice Chukwuocha