adminHey! Let’s talk about something beautiful: finding “the one.” That person who just feels like home. Love can be confusing sometimes, especially when you’re wondering if the person you’re with is really your forever person. How do you know if they’re the one?
It’s not always about grand gestures or fireworks. Sometimes, it’s the little things that show you they’re your person. Let me share 10 sure signs with real stories to help you figure it out.
1. You Feel Safe With Them
Safety isn’t just about physical protection—it’s about being emotionally secure.
Chidera used to feel anxious in her past relationships. But when she met Kunle, everything changed. He listened without judging and never made her feel silly for sharing her fears. One day, she told him about her biggest insecurity, and instead of laughing, he held her hand and said, “You’re perfect the way you are.” That’s when she knew he was different.
If you feel safe opening up about anything with them, that’s a big sign.
2. They Make You Laugh
Laughter is such a powerful bond. If you can joke, laugh, and be silly together, you’re onto something great.
For instance, Bola and Femi had a terrible date once—it rained, their food order got mixed up, and the movie they wanted to watch was sold out. Instead of being upset, they laughed the whole evening. Years later, Bola says that’s when she realized Femi was her person.
If they can make you laugh even on bad days, hold onto them.
3. They Support Your Dreams
A partner who truly loves you will want to see you shine.
Amaka had always wanted to start a baking business, but she was scared. Her boyfriend, Deji, encouraged her, helped her research, and even tasted all her early (and sometimes burnt) cakes. With his support, her business took off, and she says she wouldn’t have done it without him.
When they cheer you on and believe in your potential, they’re a keeper.
4. You Respect Each Other
Respect is one of the most underrated signs of a strong relationship. It’s not just about them treating you well but also how they treat others.
Kemi noticed her boyfriend, Tunde, always spoke kindly to waiters, cab drivers, and even strangers. It showed her that he was a genuinely respectful person. Over time, she realized he never belittled her ideas or made her feel less important.
If they treat you and others with respect, they’re showing you their true character.
5. They Communicate Honestly
You can’t build a strong relationship without honesty. If they tell you the truth, even when it’s hard, that’s love.
Chuka once forgot to pick up Ifeoma from work because he got caught up with a friend. Instead of making excuses, he apologized and promised to do better. Ifeoma says his honesty and willingness to admit mistakes showed her he was the one.
When they’re open and honest, it shows they value your trust.
6. They Celebrate Your Wins, Big or Small
Whether it’s a promotion, a new hobby, or even making the perfect jollof rice, a supportive partner celebrates your wins like they’re their own.
When Ada passed her certification exam, her boyfriend, Dayo, surprised her with a cake that said, “I’m so proud of you.” It wasn’t a huge gesture, but it meant the world to her.
If they celebrate your happiness, they’re invested in your joy.
7. They’re Willing to Compromise
Relationships aren’t about one person always getting their way. If they’re willing to meet you halfway, it’s a sign they care about your needs.
Fola loved hiking, but her girlfriend, Chisom, preferred staying indoors. Instead of arguing, they decided to plan one outdoor date and one indoor movie night each month. Fola says those little compromises made her realize how much Chisom valued their relationship.
When they’re flexible and consider your feelings, it’s love in action.
8. They’re Consistent
Consistency is key. It’s not just about saying “I love you” but showing it through actions, day in and day out.
Sarah’s husband, Emmanuel, always calls to check on her, even on his busiest days. She says his consistency, even in the smallest things, makes her feel secure and loved.
If their actions match their words, you’re in good hands.
9. They Accept You for Who You Are
True love doesn’t try to change you. It sees your quirks and flaws and loves them anyway.
Tola used to feel embarrassed about her loud laugh. But when she met Chijioke, he said, “Your laugh is one of my favorite things about you.” She says that’s when she knew he was the one.
When they love you as you are, it’s a love worth keeping.
10. They Make You Want to Be Better
The right partner inspires you to grow, not by pressuring you but by believing in you.
Emeka had always been afraid of public speaking, but his girlfriend, Nneka, encouraged him to join a local club. She practiced speeches with him and cheered him on at every event. Now, he’s a confident speaker, and he credits her for pushing him to believe in himself.
If they make you want to be your best self, they’re truly special.
Finding “the one” isn’t about perfection. It’s about love, respect, and being with someone who makes you feel safe, happy, and inspired. If you’re seeing these signs in your relationship, cherish it. You’ve found something rare and beautiful.
Jedice Chukwuocha
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